Where were you when you learned that Dolly Parton had died?
I was at my dentist's office, making my six-month-out cleaning appointment. I checked my messages and there was one from my friend Joyce. It just read "Dolly Parton."
I knew that it could only mean one thing, and I googled to find that Dolly was no longer with us.
Tearing up, I immediately texted my sister Trish. Her response: "Noooooo..."
As Trish texted a second later, "She was a treasure."
Absolutely.
I also told the dentist's admins, and they put Dolly on right away. "I Will Always Love You." Who doesn't love "I Will Always Love You?"
I wasn't a super obsessive Dolly Parton fan girl, but like pretty much everyone else in this disunited country, I loved her.
I love her Christmas albums, which I play every December. I love her Trio albums with Emmy Lou Harris and Linda Ronstadt.
I am no connoisseur of her music. I don't know every obscure song she wrote. I love the ones everyone else loves. "Islands in the Stream," her duet with Kenny Rogers (no relation). "Nine to Five." "Here You Come Again." "I Will Always Love You." Historically, I haven't been a big fan of "Jolene," but I had started to come around a month or so ago after watching a rerun on PBS of Dolly Parton: Here I Am. The only Dolly song I can think of that I heartily dislike is the sappier-than-sappy "Little Andy."
I admired Dolly for her brilliance. This dirt poor girl from Nowhere Holler, Appalachia, who built an empire. (Not that I'm ever going to visit Dollywood, but credit goes where credit is due.) Everytime she opened her mouth, it was pretty obvious that Dolly was one smart cookie.
I admired her brilliant philanthropy, especially the Imagination Library, which provides books to children from newborn until starting kindergarten. This is an organization that Dolly set up in honor of her father, who never learned to read or write.
She made a million dollar donation to Vanderbilt University for their work (with Moderna) to develop the covid vaccine. Dolly Parton, life saver!
When Whitney Houston's insanely gorgeous version of "I Will Always Love You" became a superhit, Dolly devoted the royalties (about $10M) to help support business development in a historically Black neighborhood in Nashville.
Only God and Dolly know the full depth of her charitable work.
And speaking of insanely gorgeous, Dolly - underneath all that blondie wig and makeup - was insanely gorgeous. And I know that because I actually saw her in person once.
My husband and I were in La Jolla, California, having lunch outside whatever the name of the famous La Jolla restaurant is, on an insanely gorgeous day. And who walked by but Dolly Parton. And I was immediately struck by her beauty. (This was quite a celebrity-spotting lunch. We also saw Steve Garvey, the baseball player.)
So, physical beauty combined with beautiful heart, soul, and mind.
Oh, Dolly.
When I left the dentist's office, I wanted to stop everyone I passed to tell them the news about Dolly - a compulsion I didn't act on, but which I have never felt before.
When I stopped in the post office to buy some stamps - yes, I still put things in the mail, including get-out-the-vote postcards, which was what I was buying stamps for - I told the clerk the news. She had already heard, and we commiserated for a bit, agreeing that the world needs more Dolly Partons. Or even partial Dolly Partons, as even a partial Dolly Parton would be quite a gift to humankind.
When some person of note dies, someone I liked or admired, or who was a part of the background noise of my growing up - writer, actor, musician, athlete, politician, whatever - I often feel a momentary bit of sadness. Thus, the other day when I heard that the actress Shelley Fabares had died - she played daughter Mary on The Donna Reed Show, one of my childhood favorites - I had a rueful second or two. But it's different with Dolly. For Dolly, I shed a few tears.
What is there to say, other than that the world is a lesser place without Dolly Parton, but was a better place for her 80 years here on earth.
Oh, Dolly. I will always love you.
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Image Source: Dolly Parton on Facebook






